Want Success? Unstick What Has You Stuck

Have you ever wondered why, oftentimes, we know what we need to do to get better results in life—personal or business—but can’t get ourselves to do it?

We always hear, “You must know your why.” Seriously, have you ever met someone who didn’t have a why? We all do. So how is it that a majority of people have a why, but still don’t take action and remain consistent?

Let me give you some more clarity, which in turn, should get you more results.

One key reason we have a hard time taking action is that we have things stuck in our “emotional hard drive,” which essentially works just like your computer’s hard drive.

I know this has happened to you: You’re at your computer, typing away, but it doesn’t seem to be responding quickly. Why does this happen? One reason can be that your computer’s hard drive is full. How does this happen? You may not realize it, but you are actually responsible for this happening.

Have you ever gone online to download a file, but when you click on it the first time, nothing happens? Then, if you’re like me, you get a little impatient and now what do you? That’s right, you click it two, three, or four more times.

Now, what did you actually accomplish? You just downloaded that exact same file several times. Imagine now doing this for several months or several years. Do you think that, in time, your computer’s hard drive will eventually get filled up with a bunch of unnecessary stuff? No doubt about it!

Our emotional hard drive works the exact same way. If you had something negative happen to you when you were five years old, five years ago or five days ago, every time you relive those negative emotions, what are you actually doing? You’re right: you’re packing more junk in your emotional hard drive.

When our emotional hard drive gets stuck, we get stuck. If we don’t learn to purge and clean it out, we’ll have a hard time consistently moving forward and taking massive action. We’ll often feel we’re taking one step forward and ten steps back.

When our emotional hard drive gets stuck, we get stuck. Click To Tweet

Unfortunately, I know a thing or two about junk being stuck in my emotional hard drive.

As a teenager, I owned my own business and was very successful. I was making over $100,000 a year. Coasting on a huge wave of financial prosperity, I got married early in life; however, a few years my life was about to change dramatically!

Not long after getting married my wife and I had a baby, which she later tells me wasn’t really mine. I can’t even begin to describe the emotional pain from that experience.

After that, my grandfather and stepfather died of cancer, and my uncle was killed in a plane accident. Then, I received a call from my mother to tell me my father was shot, point-blank, in the chest and drowned in his own blood.

I wish I could tell you I made all of this up, but it’s all true and happened to me by the time I was 21 years of age.

You can understand why I had so much stuck in my emotional hard drive. If I hadn’t learned how to clean and purge my emotional hard drive, I would have quit, and I would have resorted to accepting my past as my present and future.

Enough about my emotional hard drive… What about yours? You have stuff stuck there that you don’t even know about. And this is why people often throw in the towel and give up.

Personally, I experienced a lot of rejection and abandonment in my life. If I didn’t leave my past in my past, I would relive that rejection and pain every time I heard “no”—and I’ve heard “no” a lot in my business.

If I didn’t leave my past in my past, I would relive that rejection and pain every time I heard… Click To Tweet

You can create a story of feeling sorry for yourself because you feel the present rejection which is associated with your past rejection from something stuck in your emotional hard drive. Make sense?

When that happens, do you feel like moving ahead toward your goals and doing it fast and consistently? Of course not!

In addition to cleaning out your emotional hard drive, here is one more suggestion. I’ve used this for years to master the ability to take massive action, even if my emotional hard drive tries to get me stuck:

(Remember this next time you feel like slowing down or quitting because something in your hard drive is creeping up.)

When your feelings are not in harmony with your goals, ignore your feelings!

When your feelings are not in harmony with your goals, ignore your feelings! Click To Tweet

I teach this at nearly every seminar I conduct. If you don’t ignore your negative feelings, more negativity evolves. You begin to reward your negative feelings, which is the worst thing you could do.

I’m not encouraging you to sweep your deepest, darkest feelings under the rug. However, take time today to become aware of how often you reward some of the smallest negative emotions that, in turn, ruin your day and slow you down.


gary coxeGary Coxe, Business and life Strategist is recognized for his life changing programs. His goal is to help others live an extraordinary life with lasting results. Gary is a regular on Dr. Phil’s show “The Doctors” where he shows people how to make changes that last. He has successfully broken through and conquered unbelievable tragedies. He has been able to use his experiences to relate to and help others: whether it has been to increase sales, maximize individual potential, or to eliminate challenges that limit success.



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