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Avoid the Networking Disconnect

I was at a big networking event. More than nine hundred people were in the audience, and I asked everyone there: “How many of you came here hoping to do some business—maybe make a sale?” Almost everyone in the audience raised their hands. I then asked, “How many of you are here hoping to buy something?” No one raised their hand—not one single person! This is what I call the Networking Disconnect.

Most people show up to networking events wanting to sell something, but no one is there hoping to buy something! This disconnect is why so many people hate networking. Over and over again, I read articles from well-meaning “experts” who say horrible things about networking. The problem is, they are generally experiencing “direct selling” done under the guise of networking. That’s where the Networking Disconnect comes in, and that’s almost always behind the reason some people don’t like networking.

If you’re going to networking events hoping to sell something, you’re dreaming. OK, I recognize that it can happen—but it generally happens as often as a solar eclipse. It’s possible that anyone can stumble over an immediate sale at a networking event, but then, even a blind squirrel can find a nut occasionally! Don’t confuse direct selling with networking. Effective networking is about developing relationships, not using the event as a “face-to-face cold-calling” opportunity.

Effective networking is about developing relationships. Click To Tweet

I recently read an article published on a major online business platform titled “Stop Networking.” It went on to explain how the process of networking is so “mercenary.” The problem is that every example the author gave about how networking doesn’t work was an example of really bad networking! Their conclusion was to stop networking. Instead of networking, the author said you should do these five things:

  1. Focus on relationships, not transactions.
    Focus on relationships, not transactions. Click To Tweet
  2. Don’t ask for something before you give something.
    Don’t ask for something before you give something. Click To Tweet
  3. Don’t make the process about you.
    Don’t make the process about you. Click To Tweet
  4. Strive for quality, not quantity, in your relationships.
    Strive for quality, not quantity, in your relationships. Click To Tweet
  5. Volunteer for leadership roles in organizations you belong to.

Hello! Does anyone notice that the emperor has no clothes? I would argue that all five of these strategies are about networking—the right way. In this article, bad networking tactics were presented as the reasons people should stop doing it. Networking can certainly be done badly—but networking itself isn’t bad.

The key at networking events is to make solid connections with individuals so they will remember who you are when you do follow up with them. You want them to be excited to meet with you for coffee or lunch. If you go to networking events just trying to sell, those people won’t want to meet with you later because they know you’re going to pitch them. If you want people to be eager to meet with you after networking events, the key is to find ways to help them.

Think back to the nine hundred people in my audience. Think about all the circles that had the possibility of forming, and connecting, and how many of them most likely didn’t. If everyone in that room focused on learning who they could help, as opposed to sell, imagine the relationships that might have been. Good networking is all about building relationships.

Good networking is all about building relationships. Click To Tweet

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Excerpted from Avoiding the Networking Disconnect by Ivan Misner, Ph.D., & Brennan Scanlon






ivan misnerDr. Ivan Misner is considered one of the world’s leading experts on business networking and has been featured on CNN, CNBC, in the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Entrepreneur Magazine and others. He’s also is the Founder of, the world’s largest business networking organization. Ivan is co-author, with Brennan Scanlon, of the new book, “Avoiding the Networking Disconnect: The Three Rs to Reconnect”.



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